Formation Reflection Questions

When it comes to determining what formed you into the person you are and what could play a factor in who you are becoming you have to take the time to reflect and ask questions.

Some of the questions you ask will lead you to memories of deep joy. Others will lead you to places of sorrow.

It will be tempting to only ask positive questions. While those will certainly reveal things that formed you, it is often the hard questions that will create healing and enable you to be free from the past.

As you trust the Holy Spirit to do His healing work you will become free of the past and be better equipped to follow Jesus into the future He has planned for you!

Below you will find five sections of ten questions each. Take your time as you reflect on each question and feel free to skip questions that may cause too much pain at this moment.

Allow yourself to feel the emotions it brings up and be sure to discuss them with a healthy spiritual community.

Ultimately, the goal is to find places in your past that need to be brought into the light so that they can be healed through God as you journey toward who He is forming you into.

You can download the questions to print or save for later down below.

Section One

1. What is your favorite childhood memory?

2. What was your most embarrassing childhood moment?

3. How did your family celebrate holidays/birthdays?

4. How have skills from your favorite hobby affected your daily life?

5. What life lessons did you learn from tv/movies/books early in life?

6. Who was your best friend growing up? How did they impact you?

7. What are some qualities you have in common with your parents?

8. What sort of rules did you have in your house growing up?

9. What caused you to get into the most trouble with your parents?

10. Are there areas in life you deliberately do the opposite of what your parents did? Why?

Section Two

1. Why did you choose the career/job you have? Is it the one you always dreamed about having?

2. What happened on your worst date?

3. How many serious relationships have you been in?

4. Is there anything you regret doing or not doing in a past relationship?

5. How has where you grew up shaped who you are?

6. What have you chickened out of doing that you'd like to do now?

7. How did your parents' faith (or lack of faith) affect your daily life growing up?

8. If you could go back and relive one moment what moment would it be?

9. If you could change one thing in your past what would you change?

10. What is something you used to vehemently believe that you no longer do? How did your mind get changed?

Section Three

1. What is something you are grateful you got to experience?

2. When was the last time you were terrified?

3. What values are you glad your parents imparted to you?

4. What values have you had to unlearn from your parents?

5. When was the last time you were really excited about something?

6. How close are you with your immediate and extended family members? Why?

7. Who was your best & worst teacher?

8. How did your parent's income/spending habits shape your life's trajectory?

9. What does your favorite song/band/music genre say about you?

10. Did your parents express emotions in healthy ways as you were growing up? Do you?

Section Four

1. Did you feel like your parents were proud of you?

2. What is a bad habit you can't kick? When did it start? Did you pick the habit up from someone you were close with?

3. How have your hobbies changed since you were a kid? Why did they change?

4. What motivates you to work hard?

5. Who did you look up to growing up?

6. What movie/book/tv show do you wish you could experience for the first time again? Why that one?

7. Which parent are you closer to and why?

8. What makes you feel accomplished? Why that?

9. What's something you've always wanted to say to your parents but never have been able to?

10. What trait would you not want to pass on to a child? Where did that trait come from in you?

Section Five

1. Are you confrontational? Is that the same or the opposite for most of your family?

2. What’s the best piece of advice someone has given you?

3. What piece of culture or trend has died out, but you would like to see it make a comeback?

4. What’s an innocent mistake you made that had dramatic consequences?

5. What do you think people automatically assume about you when they look at you? Why do you think that?

6. Looking back on your life, what have you done that has given you the most satisfaction?

7. What do you really wish you knew when you were younger?

8. What are the two biggest lessons you’ve learned from previous relationships?

9. How do you feel about God? Why?

10. What's your story?

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